how to propose her/him

a boy asked me that he wants to propose a girl.
i asked proposed for what?
"i want to tell her what i feel about her" he replied.
"what do you feel" i aksed
"i really like her and want to be with her for some time, may be a coffee or something" he said
"go ahead and tell her, that you like her and you want to treat her with a coffee" i replied
"what if she reacts bad" he said
"why will she react bad" i asked
"she will think cheap of me and will think that i am a bad boy who is irritating her" he said

"is that your intention" i asked
"not at all" he said
"then where is the problem. tell her your intentions. she should know before she conceives her own thoughts" i said
ok" he said
"what do you want from her. do you want a marriage, pyhsical pleasure or just want to know her more" i asked
"no marriage i just want to meet her and spend some time to know her" he said
"do you love her"i asked
its too early to say, i have just seen her couple of times and dont even know her nature, choices and even likings" he said

"go ahead" i said
"i dont know what she will say" he said
"what is the worst" i asked

"she will say no" he said
"no to what. to your feelings for her. your emotions or to go for a coffee or talk on mobile" i asked
"to my proposal" he said
"proposal? what proposal, you said you want to express your emotions to her. go ahead and do that. you did not tell me that you want something in return." i asked
"i want to propose and ofcourse i want things in return" he said
"then thats not love or liking. thats purely a conditional deal you want to make with her. that deal is giving you fear as well as a feeling of being rejected or refused.if you like her or like anything special in her just go and tell her. if she also feels the same she would surely speak to you about it. if she doesnt why do you want to force her to love you or like you. and in return you behave silly that will surely make mockery of your liking." i said

"i got it. i was considering my feelings as love. whereas its nothing but a desire of feeling physical sensation. if i love or like her it should not matter what she replies to me. her reply wouldnt affect my love for her. i will tell her my heart its ok how she reacts. i respect her so i will say it in a decent way. i will go to her and tell her i like being with her. i like the way she dresses up. the way she talks to everyone. i wish i could be with person like her and feel very happy about it. i will tell her that she has no compulsion to feel the same about me.my love for her would remain the same and i assure her that i will not do anything that brings disgrace to her or her emotions. love is eternal it doesnt need a physical approval or private meetings, mushy moments or even hands together. it is felt and it remains in you forever" he said

"how do you feel now" i asked
"wow, i will just go and tell her" he said
"how will she react" i asked
"she will react as if someone has told her how good she is and thats how she should be throughout her life. she will feel really wonderful" he said
"go ahead and all the best" i said

he left the room and i could see confidence in him. now if he goes and proposes her its a wonderful love of him.
if he feels that he wants her physical approval and wants a right on her. she should belong to him only, the feeling of control comes in. she is a love of him not a commodity. you cannot make a person do something until and unless he or she wants to do that.
remember there is a difference in humans and materials. she is is a human not an article you can posess.

prince gera