doubt in relationship

i come across many couples who complain me about their partners posessiveness and some even compain about how unfaithful there partners are.

case1: she should not talk to boys or should not even make an id on social networking sites?

"why" i asked

"i dont like it" the answer came

"why dont you like it" he said

"still, there must be a reason you dont like it for" i asked

"why she needs to speak to someone, am not i sufficient" he replied
"you are very much sufficient and since she lives in a society she is bound to speak to many others too. talking to others doesnt mean that she wants to be with all of them" i asked

"but not with boys" he said
"why not boys" i asked

"boys take advantage of girls, they are not good and they use dumb girls like her" he said
"how do you know that" i asked
"i know" he said
"how" i asked
"i have seen many cases" he said
"you have many cases or you also do like that" i asked
"no i dont do that but i know it happens" he said
"has something happend in the past" i asked
"no, not really" he answered
"see even if a boy approaches her for a relationship she will refuse him. being good looking or attractive is not a crime and is not even her mistake. if a boy approaches she will simply say i am commited. " i said
"no, boys are clever they know how to flatter. she will agree when they will convince her" he said
"how can you be so sure" i asked
"because i also have convinced many" he said

here he is. since he has been like this always. he also assumes other boys to be like that only.
he assumes other boys would also be a flirt like him who tries a hand on almost everyone.

it is not neccessarly in all cases.
may be he has not done anything in the past but has seen his friends doing this.
or he has seen this happening to his friends.
or he has seen this in a movie or read a book.
he has experienced in last relationship
or the girl has already done it in the past.

so in all cases there was a "FEAR" controlling this relationship.
he required severe change in his thinking patterns because of continous flow of negative thoughts he find his partner highly unfaithful.


case 2
he likes her.
she is a flirt and he has caught her many times flirting around with others.
when he cross questions her she swears on him and convinces him.
things become normal after some hours or days fight.
he shouts on her and abuses her then he only calls her says sorry.

he loves her but at the same time he doubts on her. when this doubts comes in his mind he hates her again.
she is always in his mind and he keeps checking her minute after minute. when she says are you spying on me he says i care for you.

he doesnt know why she flirts.
he says he will feel very relaxed when she admits that she is a cheat. he is only waiting and slogging this relationship till the day she confesses about her relationship with someone else.

he is living a life full of stress. he is compulsory obsessed with her.
he wants to be with her but has no faith on her. as there has been many incidents in the past and now his faith is in shrecks.

he doesnt know what to do? he lives his life in pain. this pain is more than 1000 bone fractures but is not visible anywhere on the body.

we need to find out where it started from.
why did he like a flirt.
is he a flirt too.
how does he think that every time she talks to a boy, she flirts.
why does he think that she will get into a new relation

on top of all what does he want?
he wants to be happy.
and he wants her to live with him happily.
can she live happily with him when he is so unhappy

he needs a severe change in his living pattern.
he has to become a happy man.
believe me you attract happy people around you only if you are happy.


prince gera