businessman ki liye..

आपका बिज़नस कल से एक नयी उम्मीद देखेगा.
सिर्फ यह कुछ बातें अपनाने से अगर आपकी ज़िन्दगी बदल जाये तो इन्हें अपनाने में आप पीछे नहीं हटेंगे मुझे पूरा यकीन है. मेरे इतने साल मैनेजमेंट शिक्षा में बिताने की बाद मैं कह सकता हूँ की यकीनन आपको एक नयी दिशा देगा.

१. अपने काम को एक सेवा की तरह देखिये और सोचिये आप किस तरह से किसी के काम आ सकते है. यह आपको उत्साहित कर देगा. अगर आप अपने प्रोडक्ट या सेवा को लेकर उत्साहित नहीं है. तो क्या आपको लगता है की आप किसी और को उस सेवा या प्रोडक्ट के लिए उत्साहित कर सकते है.
सबसे बहतरीन सलेस्मन सिर्फ सामान ही नहीं बल्कि उसके साथ उत्साह भी बेचता है. याद करिए जब आप कुछ खरीद के लाये थे, जिसे खरीद के आप बहुत उत्साहित थे, कितने उत्साह से आपने उस सामान को अपने दोस्तों और परिवारजनों को दिखाया था. याद है. मुझे पूरा यकीन है की आप उस दुकानदार से भी बेहतर समझा रहे थे उस सामान के बारे में.
यह उत्साह आपको ख़ुशी देगा अपने प्रोडक्ट या सेवा के प्रति. और यह ख़ुशी अपने मन में रखिये क्यूंकि अगर आज आपके मन में ख़ुशी है तो कल आपको ख़ुशी ही मिलेगी और आपके मन में उदासी है तो हर और उदासी देखेगी.
२. आज से निंदा त्याग दें. यह सिर्फ रिश्ते तोड़ता है. घर या बहार, अपने या पराये सबकी निंदा से हासिल कुछ नहीं होगा. हम में से कोई पूरा नहीं इसीलिए हम इस पर काबू पाने की कोशिश तो कर ही सकते है.
कुछ ख़राब लगने पर शिकायत की जगह अगर हम उसकी वजह जाने तो आसान हो जायेगा अपनी बात कह पाना.
अपने आप से पूछिए कैसा लगता है जब कोई आपसे आपकी या आपकी सेवा की शिकायत करता है. कैसा लगता है जब आपके परिवार के लोग आपकी किसी
बात को नापसंद करें.
प्रशंसा करें. एक काम के लिए की गयी प्रशंसा बाकी ९९ कामों के लिए उत्साहित करेगी.
अपने आप से पूछें अगर कोई आपके किये गए एक काम के लिए आपकी प्रशंसा करे तो आप खुद ही और कामों को मन लगा कर करना चाहेंगे.
सिर्फ एक बार अपने आस पास नज़रें घुमाएं और देखें अपने आस पास के माहौल और लोगों को. उनमे ज़रूर कमियाँ है. मगर मैं दावे से कह सकता हूँ की उनमें कम से कम एक
बात प्रशंसा के लायक होगी. बस उसे ढूंढ निकालिए. देखिये हो सकता है आप उसे कह ना सके. तो अपने मन में ही कहे यह सब. वर्ना हिम्मत करें और कह दे. प्रशंसा सच्ची करें. सब बदलने लग जायेगा. सिर्फ एक बार करके तो देखें. हो सकता है आप कहें यह तो आज होगा कल फिर क्या. आप समझदार है और जानते हैं की कल सुबह आप फिर खाना खायेंगे, फिर से नहायेंगे तो क्यों ना मन को भी उसके हिस्से का खाना दे. मन का भोजन है बेहतरीन विचार. उसे उसके हिस्से का भोजन दे. नज़र फेरे चारो तरफ और दिल खोल के प्रशंसा करें. देखे
कितने बेहतरीन लोगो और सुखों का साथ मिला है आपको.. ...यह नए दिन की शुरुआत है...
३. लोगों में सच्ची दिलचस्पी लें. उनके पास बहुत कुछ है कहने के लिए. बताने के लिए. . उनके तजुर्बे, उनके सुख , दुःख, शौंक और भी बहुत कुछ. आप १५ दिनों में नए दोस्त बना लेंगे. सिर्फ लोगों में दिलचस्पी लेके. शायद इतने दोस्त आप एक साल में ना बना सके अगर आप उनसे उम्मीद रखें की वो आपमें दिलचस्पी दिखाएं. कृष्ण बन कर एक सुदामा मिलेंगे और सुदामा बन कर रहने पर कई कृष्ण.
४. मुस्कुराइए ...यह सबसे छोटा रास्ता है किसी के भी दिल में उतरने का. मुस्कुरा के मिलिए देखिये बदल जायेगा बहुत कुछ.
५. नाम ..सबसे प्यारा शब्द. .याद रखिये इसे. इसके लिए बहुत कुछ करते हैं लोग. उनका नाम याद रखिये और दोहराइए बातचीत के दौरान और देखियें कैसे बदलता है सब कुछ.
६. लोग को सुनिए..बोलना आज से उनका काम. आप सिर्फ सुनिए...सब अच्छा बोलने वाला वही है जो सब बेहतर सुने..
७. बहस या इंसान चुन लीजिये आपने क्या जीतना है..बहस या इंसान. अगर इंसान जीतना है तो बहस हारना शुरू कर दीजिये. और जीतने दीजिये सामने वाले को. बहस करना ऐसा है जैसे दुश्मन बनाने का बेहतरीन तरीका. बिज़नस में होने वाला मोल भाव बहस नहीं. वो एक प्रक्रिया है सही निष्कर्ष पर पहुचने की. जहाँ दोनों का मान रहता है और दोनों रिश्ता बनाये रखने के लिए एक दुसरे को परस्पर जगह देते है...
८. लोगों से ना कहें की वोह गलत है..चाहे आप उनकी बात से सहमत नहीं. यह उनके आत्मस्वाभिमान को ठेस पहुचाता है.
अगर वोह कहें की आज गर्मी है तो कहें आज गर्मी है .
अगर आपको लगता है की आज गर्मी नहीं तो कहें ...आज गर्मी है और पता नहीं क्यों मैं ठीक महसूस कर रहा हूँ.
देखिये आपने उन्हें गलत नहीं कहा और आपकी बात भी राखी गयी.
उदारहण के लिए. वोह कहता है की आपकी कंपनी महंगी है...
तो उपयुक्त क्या है..
नहीं...आप गलत है या
हाँ आप ठीक कह रहे हैं मगर.....देखिये मगर कहते ही आपने उसे गलत साबित कर दिया है..
अपनी बात रखने का सबसे बेहतरीन उपाय है...
आप ठीक कह रहे हैं हमारा प्रोडक्ट महंगा है...और.(और शब्द जोड़ता है ) इसलिए हमने इसे और भी बेहतर बनाया है. और उसके लिए इसे सबसे बेहतरीन गुणों से भरा है.
आपकी बात भी रह जाये और सामने वाली की बात भी..
यह मत देखिये की आप क्या बेच रहे है यह देखिये की सामने वाला क्या खरीदना चाहता है. अपने बारें में वही बतायिएँ जो वो सुनना चाहे.
इसके लिए एक बेहतर श्रोता बनिए और जानिए की सामने वाला क्या चाहता है.
उदाहरण के लिए
अगर आप गाडी बेच रही है तो अपनी गाडी के बारें में नहीं..उनकी पसंद की गाडी के बारें में पूछिए.
और देखिये उन्हें अपनी पसंद की गाडी में क्या पसंद है. उनकी पसंद की अनुभूति उन्हें अपनी गाडी में भी करायिएँ.
इसके लिए आपको सुनना पड़ेगा. एक बेहतर श्रोता की तरह. उनकी बात रखिये और उसमें अपनी बात जोड़ दीजिये.

impress people

be a mirror with people. they like being with themselves.
just be with them and let them feel they are seeing there own image.
avoid advise and passing judgments.
regards
prince gera

win hearts!!!

1. “If You Want to Gather Honey, Don’t Kick Over the Beehive”

Here is an important principle in relationships: don’t criticize, condemn or complain. People rarely blame themselves for anything, so if you criticize them not only are they unlikely to change, but also they may resent toward you.

2. The Big Secret of Dealing with People

People will go long way – sometimes even become insane – just to get the appreciation they need. So be a person who give honest and sincere appreciation to others. That’s the big secret of dealing with people. If you do that, you can’t keep people from liking you.

Part Two. Six Ways to Make People Like You

1. Do This And You’ll be Welcome Anywhere

This chapter contains a famous quote by Dale Carnegie:

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

Are you interested in others? Do you want to know about them, admire their work, and eager to help them? If you do, they will also be interested in you.

2. A Simple Way to Make a Good First Impression

The way to make a good first impression is so simple that we sometimes forget it: smile. When you smile, people will feel that you are glad to meet them. They will feel accepted and get a good first impression about you.

3. If You Don’t Do This, You Are Headed for Trouble

People put tremendous importance on their names. Therefore it will be much easier for you to win their hearts if you approach them by using their names. Unfortunately, we often forget names.

I’m as guilty as anybody else here. Sometimes I’m introduced to someone only to forget his or her name right after the conversation. Another embarrassing situation is when I meet someone who call me by name but whose name I forget.

4. An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist

It may seem counterintuitive, but being a good conversationalist is about by how good you talk. It’s about how good you listen. Encourage others to talk about themselves and be a good listener. People will feel appreciated and they will regard you as a nice people to talk with.

6. How to Make People Like You Instantly

To make people like you, make them feel important and do it sincerely. The desire to feel important is perhaps the deepest need someone has, so if you give it you will win their heart.

I wrote some practical tips on it in 33 Tips to Become a Well Liked Person.

Part Three. How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking

1. You Can’t Win an Argument

You can only lose if you argue because – no matter what the outcome of the argumentation is – you won’t win their heart. So the way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

This is something that is rather difficult for me. If I have an idea I’m confident about, I’m usually willing to argue to prove my point. This chapter shows me how wrong it is.

2. A Sure Way of Making Enemies – And How to Avoid It

A sure way of making enemies is by saying that they are wrong. People don’t like that, regardless of whether they are actually wrong or not. Such statements hurt their self-esteem. So learn to respect other people’s opinion, even when you disagree.

5. The Secret of Socrates

If you want to win other people to your way of thinking, it’s important to make them agree with you from the beginning. The way to do that is by asking questions that they will inevitably answer with “yes”. Every time they say “yes” they will become more receptive toward you. At the end, there is a good chance that they will accept the idea they previously rejected. This is a technique used by Socrates to convince his opponents.

8. A Formula that Will Work Wonders for You

There must be a reason why people say or act the way they do. Find that reason and talk from their point of view. If you understand them, they will in turn understand you.

Part Four. Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

1. If You Must Find Fault, This is the Way to Begin

As a leader, we sometimes need to correct the people we lead. But how can we do that without offending them? The answer is by praising and giving honest appreciation first. When we do that, they will become much more receptive to the correction we give.

6. How to Spur People On to Success

The best way to develop good traits in others is not by punishing them for incorrect actions but by rewarding them for correct actions. Praise every improvement they make, even the slightest one, and they will go to the right direction.

7. Give a Dog a Good Name

A good way to get others do things the way you want it is by giving them a fine reputation to live up to. For instance, if you want someone to be diligent then treat her as a diligent person and say so to her. Most likely she won’t disappoint you.from the book
how to influence people and make friends by dale careneige

who needs NLP

it can produce wonderful results If you experience these symptoms:

* depression
* loss of self-identity
* general dissatisfaction
* emotional detachment
* fears, anxieties and phobias
* loss of confidence and self-esteem
* lacking personal awareness of self
* change in behavioral patterns
* mid-life crisis
* unmanageable stress due to life changes
* jealousy

prince gera

NLP:neuro linguistic programming

What is Neuro Linguistic Programming(NLP)

Neuro Linguistic Programming, as the name suggests –‘neuro’ refers to brain, ‘linguistic’ refers to language and ‘programming’ is the installation of a strategy, procedure or plan. NLP is the study of what works in thinking, language, and behavior. It provides a systematic framework for directing our brain and body. It defines the way how we code and produce excellence which enables us to achieve the results that we want in each area of life. With NLP, you can create a set of strategies that can work for you as to how you will make decisions, build lasting relationships, create excellence in your personal and professional life, communicate to motivate your fellow men, and create balance in your life.

NLP is software manual for the bio-computer situated between your two ears. NLP is an effective tool with which you can produce desired results and enjoy peak in your work. It works as a peak performance technique for you.

Today, around the world, NLP is being practiced by Therapists, Counselors, Students, Stage Performers, Sportspersons, CEO’s, Managers, Corporate Executives, Self-Employed People, Businesspersons, Sales and Multi Level Marketing (MLM) leaders, and Politicians.

NLP helps you to learn how to do the following and excel in your life:

* NLP helps you to develop your ability to tap into your unconscious mind and draw on its awesome potential.
* NLP helps you to develop your ability to generate cooperation and trust in people around you.
* NLP helps you to develop your ability to manage your thoughts and feelings so that you are in control of your emotions.
* NLP helps you be more flexible so that you have a number of choices over the challenges and situations in your personal and professional life.
* NLP helps you develop new ways of behavioral choices that support you whatever the changes in the external world.
* NLP helps you to determine your and others value hierarchy and resolve any conflict.
* NLP helps you to have the ability to positively reframe any situation, challenge or behavior to produce more choices.
* NLP helps you to give permanence to any experience.

The Presuppositions of NLP

The thirteen presuppositions are the central principles central of NLP; they are its guiding philosophy, its ‘beliefs’. These principles are not claimed to be true or universal. You do not have to believe they are true. They are called presuppositions because you pre-suppose them to be true and then act as if they were. You then discover what happens. If you like the results then continue to act as if they are true. They form a set of ethical principles for life.

1. People respond to their experience, not to reality itself.
We do not know what reality is. Our senses, beliefs, and past experience give us a map of the world from which to operate. A map can never be exactly accurate; otherwise it would be the same as the ground it covers. We do not know the territory, so for us, the map is the territory. Some maps are better than others for finding your way around. We navigate life like a ship through a dangerous area of sea; as long as the map shows the main hazards, we will be fine. When maps are faulty and do not show the dangers, then we are in danger of running aground. NLP is the art of changing these maps, so we have greater freedom of action.

2. Having a choice is better than not having a choice.
Always try to have a map for yourself that gives you the widest and richest number of choices. Act always to increase choice. The more choices you have, the freer you are and the more influence you have.

3. People make the best choice they can at the time.
A person always makes the best choice they can, given their map of the world. The choice may be self-defeating, bizarre or evil, but for them, it seems the best way forward. Give them a better choice in their map of the world and they will take it. Even better give them a superior map with more choices in it.

4. People work perfectly.
No one is wrong or broken. They are carrying out their strategies perfectly, but the strategies may be poorly designed and ineffective. Find out how you and others do what they do so their strategy can be changed to something more useful and desirable.

5. All actions have a purpose.
Our actions are not random; we are always trying to achieve something, although we may not be aware of what that is.

6. Every behaviour has a positive intention.
All our actions have at least one purpose - to achieve something that we value and benefits us. NLP separates the intention or purpose behind an action from the action itself. A person is not their behaviour. When a person has a better choice of behaviour that also achieves their positive intention, they will take it.

7. The unconscious mind balances the conscious; it is not malicious.
The unconscious is everything that is not in consciousness at the present moment. It contains all the resources we need to live in balance.

8. The meaning of the communication is not simply what you intend, but also the response you get.
This response may be different to the one you wanted. There are no failures in communication, only responses and feedback. If you are not getting the result you want, change what you are doing. Take responsibility for the communication.

9. We already have all the resources we need, or we can create them.
There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states of mind.

10. Mind and body form a system. They are different expressions of the one person.
Mind and body interact and mutually influence each other. It is not possible to make a change in one without the other being affected. When we think differently, our bodies change. When we act differently we change our thoughts and feelings.

11. We process all information through our senses.
Developing your sense so they become more acute gives you better information and helps you think more clearly.

12. Modeling successful performance leads to excellence.
If one person can do something it is possible to model it and teach it to others. In this way everyone can learn to get better results in their own way, you do not become a clone of the model – you learn from them.

13. If you want to understand - Act
The learning is in the doing.
prince gera
NLP practitioner

improve english

grammar tips
गा गे गी will
रहा ing
कर रहा है he is doing
कर रहा था he was doing
कर रहा होगा he will be doing
कर चूका है ,कर लिया है he has done/ i have done
कर चुका था i had done/ he had done
कर लिया होगा i will have done
चाहिए था should have + IIIrd form
कर दिया होता would have + 3rd form
चाहिए should
सकता है can
करना है have to
करना पड़ेगा will have to
चाहूँगा would like to
किया करता था i did (IInd form)
हुआ करता था used to
ता, ते, ती first form he eats / i eat
मैं हूँ i am
मैं था i was
मैं होऊंगा i will be
करो do it
करवाओ get it done


examples
now try to make sentences ending with these tips. it will make it easier for you to write diary entry.this will help you to write easily. the more you write easier it become for you to speak it.

prince gera

Confused after MBA?

it is a very common question i get from students. i am very confused after my MBA.
what should i do?

my reply is what did you think before joining an MBA.
he says nothing "just that i will have a wonderful job in a good company"

what kind of company? i asked
any company means a good MNC? he said

good company means what? what product? what services what job profile would you enjoy?
he said i didnt think that much.

so you made a castle without a map. you drove your car on road without a destination in your mind. its just like leaving your house to move to undecided location." i said

but my college staff promised me heaven and they showed me dreams.today i find myself nowhere" he said
"what did they promise" i asked

"they said you will get a high paying job with lots of perks" he said

now what is the problem" i asked
i am getting a job with very less salary or even no salary. he said
but why i asked

"because i dont posses the right skills for that job. and they want me to learn it in their industry so thats why they cant pay me good or even some cant even pay anything because i will learn on their expenses" he said

then you should gain skills in the industry and work even at a less salary. i said

no, i paid 5 lacs for my MBA and i am an MBA. according to my college and my teachers i am a topper." he said

but you still dont possess the right skill" i said

but i paid 5 lacs" he said

is industry responsible for it" i asked

no" he said

what is the best option you have"i asked
i will shout in my college and wont let them have peace" he said

will that solve your problem" i asked
no" he said

"may be working hard and putting the same energy in a constructive side can lead you towards a much brighter future.
what has happend in the past was a mistake of not making a career goal properly. you still have a long life to live and i think you should make a plan now.
isnt." i aksed

yes" he said

there are millions like him who started a journey without a goal.
its never too late to make a goal in life.
make it today and work on it.
prince