NLP Technique - Outcomes
Well formed outcomes enable you to think about what you want in such a way that it will be easier and more fun to achieve - or it will help you realise that it's not something you really wanted, before you waste time in trying to achieve it.
The key aspect of an outcome is that it's motivating and sets a direction.
Outcomes - What's important
Sometimes just asking the question "and what do you want?" starts to move the interaction in a useful direction.
Although there are many different versions of well formed outcomes there are five key criteria:
Stated in the positive
It's something you want, for example, to be successful, as opposed to something you want to avoid, for example, to feel less insecure.
Under your control
The outcome is under your your control, while there maybe some debate on what actually is under our control I'd consider 'getting a new job' outside my control, but 'getting the skills and taking action to get a new job' under my control.
Identify and focus on what is directly under your control!
Sensory tested
Our senses connect us to the outside world. If we want to achieve something in the 'real' world. It's important that we can see, hear, feel and preferably taste and smell the result. And the brighter, the more colourful we make the pictures (and sounds and feelings) the more we will be drawn to take action to achieve what we want.
Ecological - Good to us and those closest to us in the short, medium and longer term
We've explored anything conscious or unconscious that may be holding us back.
Future pace
We include this final step, 'can you imagine yourself enjoyably taking the smallest first step that will move you towards your goal?'
To me what's important about an outcomes exercise is that it motivates us to take enjoyable and real action, NOT that we must achieve our goal - because our goal may change on route.
Outcomes - The technique
Help your client to come with a goal. It might be something short term or something long term and inspirational. You may want to write the goal down, if you do so make sure you write it down precisely as they say it - dont be tempted to paraphrase or restate it. Always use other peoples words, especially when their dreams are involved!
It's important that you and your client are in appropriate states before completing an outcomes exercise.
Ask your partner the following questions and notice hoe they respond. Notice also any changes in processing or physiology that take place. You don't need to think too much about the content of the answers that they come up with, pay more attention to the process and how they react.
Positive:
Tell me something you want to achieve?
Is that something you want, as opposed to want to avoid?
Specific:
When, where, with whom do you want it?
Evidence sensory based:
How do you know when you've got it?
What will you see, hear, feel, taste and smell?
What will do you see yourself doing differently as a result of achieving this?
Preserve the position intention:
(Don't throw the baby out with the bath water)
What will happen if you get this result?
What wont happen if you get it?
What will happen if you don't get this result?
What wont happen if you don't get it?
Initiated and maintained by the individual:
What is the first step that you will take?
What resources do you have?
Ecology check:
Offer your hand, palm up, to your partner and offer them their goal, right now, in the palm of your hand.
If you were offered this right now, would you take it?
Future Pace
Can you imagine yourself enjoyably taking the smallest first step that will move you towards your goal?'
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
changing feelings
NLP Technique - Changing Feelings by Dissociation 1. Recall an experience still that causes you sadness and distress. As you remember it, make sure you are re-experiencing it as if it were happening right now. See everything through your own eyes, all the feelings - including the associated emotions - through your own body. Pay particular attention to any sounds; these might include anything that was said by you or any other significant participants in the original scenario. It may also include your own self-talk. Make a mental note of the degree to which this memory still causes you pain.
2. now pretend or imagine you can step back out of the experience so you can see yourself here, as if on a screen. Push the entire away from you, further and further, noticing, as it moves into the distance, how the colors begin to leach away and the detail diminishes. Push it as far away as you need to notice a distinct difference in the way that you feel about the events.Note : Unless you particularly wish to have the discomfort back, you can leave the experience where it is - or even spin it away into space and have it explode into the sun.
2. now pretend or imagine you can step back out of the experience so you can see yourself here, as if on a screen. Push the entire away from you, further and further, noticing, as it moves into the distance, how the colors begin to leach away and the detail diminishes. Push it as far away as you need to notice a distinct difference in the way that you feel about the events.Note : Unless you particularly wish to have the discomfort back, you can leave the experience where it is - or even spin it away into space and have it explode into the sun.
remove fears
NLP Technique - Fast Phobia Cure
The Fast Phobia cure can be used for any real big fear, if the fear can be tested there an then - i.e. purely imagining the situation brings observable manifestations of the fear - so much the better.
The technique contains a number of steps, for example, dissociation, playing an experience backwards, which can be useful in many contexts.
Fast Phobia Cure - What's important
Remember if it's a really big fear you can continue to dissociate further, for example float above yourself from the gallery and watch yourself from an air vent in the cinema, watching yourself, watching yourself watching the movie.
Sometimes in order to get the logistics right I'll layout the room so a screen or monitor is the cinema screen, a chair represents the front row and another chair represents a chair in the balcony.
Also remember to test thoroughly and to continue as many times as it needs to get an appropriate outcome. You're teaching your client some very useful mental processes.
Fast Phobia Cure - The Technique
1. Have the subject find their greatest fear in life.
2. Have them walk into an imaginary movie theatre of their mind and sit down in the center of the front row.
3. Have them float up out of their body and gently settle in a comfortable seat in the balcony, so they can watch themselves watching the screen.
4. Have them put the very beginning of their greatest fear on the screen in the form of a colored slide. Have them run the movie of their greatest fear all the way to end, as they remain in the balcony watching sitting in the front row watching themselves on the screen.
5. At the end of the movie, freeze the frame into a slide. Change the picture to black and white and then re-associate fully into the picture on the screen (walk into the movie). Run the associated movie backwards at triple speed or faster, with circus or cartoon music playing, and have them freeze - frame the image when they get to the beginning of the movie.
6. Have them walk out of the still picture and sit back down in the center of the front row of the theater, then have them white out the entire screen.
7. Repeat steps 3-6 as necessary. Test for the phobic response after each time through. All throughout the process use plenty of presuppositions and Milton model language patterns to reinforce
The Fast Phobia cure can be used for any real big fear, if the fear can be tested there an then - i.e. purely imagining the situation brings observable manifestations of the fear - so much the better.
The technique contains a number of steps, for example, dissociation, playing an experience backwards, which can be useful in many contexts.
Fast Phobia Cure - What's important
Remember if it's a really big fear you can continue to dissociate further, for example float above yourself from the gallery and watch yourself from an air vent in the cinema, watching yourself, watching yourself watching the movie.
Sometimes in order to get the logistics right I'll layout the room so a screen or monitor is the cinema screen, a chair represents the front row and another chair represents a chair in the balcony.
Also remember to test thoroughly and to continue as many times as it needs to get an appropriate outcome. You're teaching your client some very useful mental processes.
Fast Phobia Cure - The Technique
1. Have the subject find their greatest fear in life.
2. Have them walk into an imaginary movie theatre of their mind and sit down in the center of the front row.
3. Have them float up out of their body and gently settle in a comfortable seat in the balcony, so they can watch themselves watching the screen.
4. Have them put the very beginning of their greatest fear on the screen in the form of a colored slide. Have them run the movie of their greatest fear all the way to end, as they remain in the balcony watching sitting in the front row watching themselves on the screen.
5. At the end of the movie, freeze the frame into a slide. Change the picture to black and white and then re-associate fully into the picture on the screen (walk into the movie). Run the associated movie backwards at triple speed or faster, with circus or cartoon music playing, and have them freeze - frame the image when they get to the beginning of the movie.
6. Have them walk out of the still picture and sit back down in the center of the front row of the theater, then have them white out the entire screen.
7. Repeat steps 3-6 as necessary. Test for the phobic response after each time through. All throughout the process use plenty of presuppositions and Milton model language patterns to reinforce
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