HESITATION:does it hold you!

hesitation
lets do an exercise.
think of an apple. what image comes in your mind. surely an apple.
now when i say you "dont think of apple " what comes in your mind. i am sure apple again.
now again i say dont think of an apple.
i am sure you still are thinking about apple.

this is where the hesitation works on. you dont want this hesitation or fear but you still think about it all the time.even when you are working to improve it you still have it in your mind thats why you see it coming back to you again and again.

now lets try this. instead of saying dont think about an apple, i say you to think of an orange.
now what comes in your mind. an orange for sure.

thats what it is. you dont want to feel hesitant but you still think about it everyday and say i dont want to be hesitant....


what this hesitation is:
hesitation is a natural phenomenon.it like a self defense mechanism.
we all feel hesitant to new people, new places, routes, drives and even situations.
the degree of this hesitation may vary from person to person and situations too.

the another side of hesitation is feeling inferiority or worrying about your image. what will people think about me when i do this.

i have a very simple approach to it. first ask yourself what will people think about you. let the images come in your mind. hear what you hear and feel how you feel about it.
now just imagine yourself doing what you want to do and see people reacting very normally to it. and see how you feel.

in some cases you feel inferior and you want to show others how inferior you are feeling. this is a big trouble. you must accept what you are and as you are. you will feel very relaxed.
for example you go into a big coffee shop with some friends of your cousins. they talk about menu and look at you. you dont know the menu and have never been to a place like this. you tend to lose your confidence and hope that they dont discuss the menu with you. because if they ask you for a dish you will fall flat and they will get to know the fact that you are an alien to such an ambience.
the best part would be you go ahead and tell them that you are new to this place and since the other members are more familier to this. ask them for suggestions on menu and even ask them to explain you the dishes and you listen curiously.
now they dont have to show that they are superior because you have already called them superior.
it gives them a chance to share their knowledge with you and you get a mentor.

in another situation you may feel hesitant of thinking about the result of the action you intend to perform.
you can close your eyes and play a movie of you doing that act. you can add music as per your choice or even reactions of people observing you.
its is a neuro programming exercise to create instant confidence.

what the world thinks about you its their problem. and as long as you are not hurting anyone, you must feel happy doing what are doing.


accept yourself as you are and be what you are. dont blend. tell people also to accept you as you are.

as you spend more time doing that act you automatically become more confident.
now go ahead and live to the fullest.

speak your point with a conviction and genuinees in your heart.

prince gera